The Multi-dimensional Versions of You
Science loves exploring a multi-dimensional perspective. The idea that different stories are going on in which we can or do exist is an interest in both the non-fiction world of quantum physics and the fictional world of sci-fi stories. But until multi-dimensional existence is unequivocally proven and manipulated, it has no actual relevance in the average life. But what if there is relevance? What if the sci-fi version of multi-dimensional existence is a metaphor, as so many story premises are, of a real phenomenon happening every moment of every day? There is a way of seeing it like that. The difference between fiction and nonfiction multi-dimensional perspective is the context that defines the dimensions. For stories like the Marvel world as in the Avengers movies, the context is a timeline. Change the timeline and change the dimension. But in real life, the context is relationships. Change the relational structure and change the dimension.
I have multi-dimensional versions of myself. I am a husband, a father, an employee, a friend, a teacher, and the list can go on. In every one of those contexts, I am the same person and yet a slightly different version of that person. How I act toward my wife is not the same way I act toward my boss, my kids, etc. And yet, the core values that make me who I am are consistent throughout all those versions of myself. If I know that, I have a huge advantage because I can leverage one version of myself to improve the story in another version.
Say work is constantly miserable, but I have a reasonably good marriage. I can use my marriage to start brainstorming and seeking another career path. Or I can use my marriage to highlight some behaviors that cause me trouble that, if highlighted at work, would spiral me in a downward trajectory, but the loving words of my wife provide an opportunity for improvement. Or maybe I strengthen what is already good about my marriage so that I can suffer the harder story at work for a greater good, like providing for my family. The point is that different relational contexts in our lives have different stories going on, and by leveraging the most impactful relational contexts, we can reshape the other stories. But how do we know what is the most impactful contexts? Like building a house, you look at the order in which things are constructed because the order determines dependency. Where my lights go depends on the layout of the rooms. The layout of the rooms depends on the framework. The framework depends on the size and stability of the concrete. It’s no different for our relationships. All we have to do is go back to the beginning and observe the order of creation.
First, there was God’s relationship with Adam. Then, a marriage was made, and from there, a family, and then interaction with the world outside the family. Fundamentally, you will always feel unstable in your relationships when your relationship with God is decomposing, broken, or just non-existent. There is a way to feel whole, when all of your multi-dimensional selves work harmoniously in one powerful story, rather than the fractional, mini-survival stories that tend to be the norm.
Our lives can slowly be brought into a more cohesive synchronicity one dimension at a time. It takes some strategic focus, a desire to improve, and most importantly the willingness to do the hard work of changing. Not changing who you are at your core, but rather improving how that core shows up in the many dimensional versions of life. Develop who you are into who you need to be by developing your relationship contexts, starting with the most fundamental one.
I have multi-dimensional versions of myself. I am a husband, a father, an employee, a friend, a teacher, and the list can go on. In every one of those contexts, I am the same person and yet a slightly different version of that person. How I act toward my wife is not the same way I act toward my boss, my kids, etc. And yet, the core values that make me who I am are consistent throughout all those versions of myself. If I know that, I have a huge advantage because I can leverage one version of myself to improve the story in another version.
Say work is constantly miserable, but I have a reasonably good marriage. I can use my marriage to start brainstorming and seeking another career path. Or I can use my marriage to highlight some behaviors that cause me trouble that, if highlighted at work, would spiral me in a downward trajectory, but the loving words of my wife provide an opportunity for improvement. Or maybe I strengthen what is already good about my marriage so that I can suffer the harder story at work for a greater good, like providing for my family. The point is that different relational contexts in our lives have different stories going on, and by leveraging the most impactful relational contexts, we can reshape the other stories. But how do we know what is the most impactful contexts? Like building a house, you look at the order in which things are constructed because the order determines dependency. Where my lights go depends on the layout of the rooms. The layout of the rooms depends on the framework. The framework depends on the size and stability of the concrete. It’s no different for our relationships. All we have to do is go back to the beginning and observe the order of creation.
First, there was God’s relationship with Adam. Then, a marriage was made, and from there, a family, and then interaction with the world outside the family. Fundamentally, you will always feel unstable in your relationships when your relationship with God is decomposing, broken, or just non-existent. There is a way to feel whole, when all of your multi-dimensional selves work harmoniously in one powerful story, rather than the fractional, mini-survival stories that tend to be the norm.
Our lives can slowly be brought into a more cohesive synchronicity one dimension at a time. It takes some strategic focus, a desire to improve, and most importantly the willingness to do the hard work of changing. Not changing who you are at your core, but rather improving how that core shows up in the many dimensional versions of life. Develop who you are into who you need to be by developing your relationship contexts, starting with the most fundamental one.
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